Go Blue Devils!
My high school class--Salem (NH) High School class of 1988--recently held our 25th reunion. It was for me, in a (good) way, a bit of a surreal experience.
After spending fourth through eighth grades at a private Catholic school, my friends all went on to area Catholic high schools. On the other hand, I was moving to the regular public school, which of course meant essentially starting over again.
This was not easy for a very shy -I recently heard a term I like better--"self-sufficient"- person. (Still am to some extent, however progress is slowly being made.) I still had my best friend, but he moved away after a couple of years.
So it was for the next four years. But don't get me wrong, I'm not looking for my shot on Dr Phil. Nor did I have any problems with my classmates, I did have 3 or 4 friends I'd hang with at lunch; that's just the kind of person I was. I was most comfortable just doing my work and going home. After graduation, I didn't keep up with anyone, nor did I go to any of the previous reunions. I guess my attitude, for whatever reason--good or bad---was: OK, high school is over. Moving on. What's next?
Given all of this, what caused me attend my 25th? Well, it all started with a blast-from-the-past phone call my parents got at their house one morning a few months ago. I just happened to be there. It went, in part, something like this:
Dad, answering phone: Hello. (pause) Yes, he just happens to be here having breakfast. (To me): Bill,it's for you.
Me: For me? I haven't lived here in years, who would call me here? (Picking up phone): Uh, hello?
Caller: Hi, it's -----from high school. How are you?
Me: Uh, I'm good. How are you?
Caller: Good, thanks. I'm calling about our 25th reunion. You were on our "missing" list. The reunion's going to be at the end of July. Can I get a current email and I'll send you the information?
Cut to July 27th, 2013. 7:00pm. I'm arriving at the Executive Court Banquet Facility in Manchester, NH. The food is out, the bar is open, and the DJ is at his post. And even before I check in, the folks at the table know who I am, and I remember them too.
After all this time, I remembered more people than I thought I would (of course the name tags helped.) But it was a good time. Never mind that it was a reunion, we were just getting together for a party. Talking about kids, work, vacations. We all did pretty well for ourselves; they were impressed with my work at the museum, I was impressed with all their accomplishments. We even have a local celebrity in our ranks.
It had taken me so long to decide if I was actually going to go that I missed the early bird rate for the ticket. But I'm glad I did attend. Maybe it's just a matter of perspective; sometimes you can't see the truth of a situation while you're in it. We were just kids then.
In the end, from twenty-five years out, my class is a great bunch of interesting, talented, fun people. I'm off the "missing" list, and looking forward to the 30th.
Cut to July 27th, 2013. 7:00pm. I'm arriving at the Executive Court Banquet Facility in Manchester, NH. The food is out, the bar is open, and the DJ is at his post. And even before I check in, the folks at the table know who I am, and I remember them too.
After all this time, I remembered more people than I thought I would (of course the name tags helped.) But it was a good time. Never mind that it was a reunion, we were just getting together for a party. Talking about kids, work, vacations. We all did pretty well for ourselves; they were impressed with my work at the museum, I was impressed with all their accomplishments. We even have a local celebrity in our ranks.
It had taken me so long to decide if I was actually going to go that I missed the early bird rate for the ticket. But I'm glad I did attend. Maybe it's just a matter of perspective; sometimes you can't see the truth of a situation while you're in it. We were just kids then.
In the end, from twenty-five years out, my class is a great bunch of interesting, talented, fun people. I'm off the "missing" list, and looking forward to the 30th.